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Are you giving TOO much in your relationships?
Updated: 7 days ago
Stop feeling RESENTMENT today and understand exactly why giving too much in your relationships is having the exact OPPOSITE effect!
Click the video to watch the replay: Are you giving too much in your relationships?
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Do you feel resentment just bubbling away inside of you, ready to explode when triggered every time one of your basic values of respect is squashed by another person's ignorance?
Read on to understand exactly how your GIVING nature is pushing away the love you crave and completely deserve!
We must start empowering ourselves by bringing conscious awareness to what ENERGY we are operating in.
When we are operating from a masculine energy in our relationships, whether romantic, friends, family or co-workers, it looks like this:
Assertiveness - the ability to confidently state one's opinions and take charge of a situation.
Ambition - the desire to achieve goals and strive for success.
Independence - the ability to make decisions and take responsibility for one's own actions.
Courage - the willingness to take risks and face challenges.
Logical thinking - the ability to analyze problems and make rational decisions.
Physical strength - the capacity to exert physical force and endurance.
Competitive spirit - the drive to win and excel in competitive environments.
Self-reliance - the ability to rely on oneself for one's own needs.
Rationality - the capacity to remain calm and make clear-headed decisions in emotionally charged situations.
Leadership - the ability to inspire and guide others towards a common goal.
When we are operating from a masculine energy in our relationships, whether romantic, friends, family or co-workers, it looks like this:
Empathy - the ability to understand and relate to the emotions of others.
Nurturing - the desire to care for and support others, whether it be family members, friends, or community.
Intuition - the ability to sense and understand things beyond logical reasoning.
Emotional intelligence - the ability to identify, understand, and manage one's own emotions and the emotions of others.
Creativity - the capacity to think outside the box and approach problems in innovative ways.
Sensitivity - the ability to be attuned to subtle changes in environment or people's behaviour.
Collaboration - the willingness to work with others to achieve a common goal.
Adaptability - the capacity to be flexible and adjust to changing circumstances.
Compassion - the ability to show kindness and understanding towards others.
Openness - the willingness to consider new ideas and perspectives, and the ability to embrace change.
*Receptive* - the ability to receive love as it is given, without feeling the need to give back. Just saying thank you and enjoying it.
*Vulnerability* - the ability to express how we are feeling honestly.
The two bonus traits of feminine energy, to receive and to be vulnerable are the keys to helping you unlock past habits of accessing and communicating from your masculine energy.
Often, for whatever reason, whether it be past hurt, pain, experiences, we can find ourselves stuck and feeling completely unbalanced. Looking at these traits, can you see where you spend the majority of your energy?
The truth is we often end up accessing masculine energy because we just need to get things done. It's easier. Forget about our own needs, put others first and we BELIEVE by doing, doing, doing, giving, giving, giving is helping them and at the same time, making it easier and quicker for you so saving time and energy.
But I ask you is this true?
When you take a deep reflective look at how you're feeling, is it easier? Do you feel lighter? Are you saving time and energy? Or are you feeling the heaviness and burden of resentment, anger, loneliness, feeling unloved, uncared for?
At what cost are you willing to keep sacrificing your emotional, physical, mental and spiritual needs?
What is the SEESAW EFFECT?
In the context of this topic, it's my chosen metaphor to help explain where you are in relation to the other person. Do listen to the video or podcast for a deeper explanation, but essentially both partners in the exchange are at opposite ends.
As you can see, in order to become heavier, we must demand more. This means asking for what we want, need and deserve, in turn, increasing our expectations for how we wish to be treated.
In order for the other person to increase their confidence and self-worth and therefore feel much lighter and able to care for you, they must DO something you need.
Hey presto!
Balance achieved! Your relationship will feel much more balanced and both partners able to move from one energy to the other so you can start enjoying the seesaw rather than being stuck at opposite ends!
So the next time you feel this resistance and you feel that everything you TRY TO DO (which is masculine energy by the way), isn't working and that resentment is just bubbling away inside of you, ask yourself...
What energy am I operating in right now?
Adjust yourself accordingly and watch the other person adjust themselves in response.
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With love
Sam x